I Forgive But I Can’t Forget

To err is human; to forgive, divine. ~Alexander Pope

I believe everyone deserves a second chance. No one is perfect and our faults are part of what makes us human. We have to make mistakes, fall down, or fail in order to learn from them; to become our better self.

There are times when you have seconds to make a crucial choice. As is commonly said…to choose the lesser of two evils. Each option has a different outcome or consequence. Without our own personal Tardis, we cannot be a Doctor Who and go back to see if the outcome would’ve been better from changing our selection. We have to keep moving forward, take the lesson learned, and make a better choice next time.

Personally, I try to remind myself daily that I am far from being perfection. I have made many regrettable mistakes in my past. If anyone or any situation was affected by my actions, I would want someone to forgive me so that the world can keep spinning; giving us a future to make more choices.

I forgive because my heart and soul tell me that it is the right thing to do. I forgive, yet I can not forget.

Questions when I think about how I can not seem to forget.

  • Will forgetting the grudge make my strength diminish?
  • Would I still be the same person I am today if I forget my years of anguish?
  • How do you erase the effects?
  • What do I do to forget?
  • Will it soothe my constant distress that I seem to lock away?
  • When I think I’ve learned to forget, why does it show its ugly face at my weakest times?
  • Because I can not forget, does that mean I truly do not forgive?


Learning by living every day.

I’m a work in progress. To those who need my forgiveness, just so you know I’m trying. Before my own reflection on the forgive and forget topic, I did not think I held many grudges. Yet, I see that I do. Hopefully, it doesn’t eat me up on the inside and turn me into a scary version of myself; something that resembles an onryō (vengeful spirit) like in the movie- The Grudge.

I wholeheartedly believe in many aspects of The Golden Rule.


“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”


I Can’t Stay Mad at You

The best that I can do is let you know that I do forgive you today. I am trying to forget.

All I ask for in return is the same courtesy. Forgive me and just try to forget.




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